Hi guys,

The place of a woman in our society has always been revered (forget the extremes) Often she has been credited with lofty adages like – ‘behind every successful man there is a woman’ or ‘the hands that rock the cradle rule the world’. I guess we women lap it all up with pride and we think that we are worthy of it all, and more. Absolutely, no problem with it!!! But, I personally think we should consider ourselves worthy of receiving such accolades only if we are ready to take up responsibility for the other aspect of men we have among our midst. Men who are classically known for their laziness/ lethargy, insensitivity, inconsiderate attitude etc.

I’ve often heard women complain about how insensitive, lethargic, inconsiderate their husbands, boyfriends are.(yes, this is part of the girl talk, just in case u men didn’t know!!!) Who is responsible for this? Isn’t it us, the mothers, who bear the major responsibility of raising children, who are responsible for these boys growing up to be such pathetic husbands/ boyfriends/fathers?

I remember when we (my sisters and I) were growing up we were constantly told that we had to grow up to be good wives, good mothers, good daughters-in-law etc. I never heard any of my aunts or neighbors who had sons, ever tell them that they had to grow up to be good husbands, good fathers or good sons-in-laws. Why do we do this? Do we think that: men are incapable of taking up this role successfully? Or, do we think that they are born with these skill sets? Or do we simply feel that they are not worthy of it??

Are we women taking great pleasure in keeping our male child oblivious to these facts? What makes us think that boys (and later men) are incapable of handling issues related to feelings, emotions etc? Are we women underestimating our boys/ men? Or is this a way of keeping the ‘secret’ to ourselves and not divulge it to them?

I truly believe that men are as much human as we women are. It’s just a matter of introducing them to their own true self and re-assuring them that it is o.k. to do so. And if we as women, who rear them, do our bit by helping them to get in touch with themselves, then boys/ men amidst us would be much better than what they are now. So, women, especially mother with sons, sisters with brothers (i don't want to get to wives with husbands, as very few to nill husbands 'listen' to their wives) out there don’t you think it’s high time we think in these lines?